Archive for October, 2009

Simple Meditation Techniques, and Lifestyle Tips

Monday, October 26th, 2009

The practice of meditating to improve your mood has been increasing in popularity in Western countries, and as high stress levels are a problem with many modern workplaces, what better subject to investigate than one that helps people relax? We headed out to visit Krishnan at the Ananda Los Angeles Meditation Center, who gave us a few tips on meditation techniques, and Swami Atmarupananda at the Trabuco Ramakrishna Monastery, who spoke to us about the lifestyle of living as a monk meditating three times a day.

http://www.vedanta.org/vssc/centers/trabuco.html
http://www.mahalo.com/How_to_Meditate
http://www.mahalo.com/How_to_Meditate_Videos
http://www.mahalo.com/Meditation
http://www.mahalo.com/How_to_Cope_with_Stress
http://www.mahalo.com/How_to_Improve_Your_Mood

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Dustin’s Marriage Advice – Friday Night With Jonathan Ross – BBC One

Monday, October 26th, 2009

http://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcone

Dustin Hoffman gives Jonathan Ross some advice on how to have a successful marriage.

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Relationship Advice : How to Stop Being Clingy

Monday, October 26th, 2009

Someone who is clingy is someone who feels like they can’t be anywhere except right next to a person at all times. Stop being clingy with the wrong person and find someone who likes the attention with tips from the author of several dating books in this free video on relationship advice.

Expert: Dr. Paul Vehorn
Contact: www.AskDoctorPaul.com
Bio: Dr. Paul Vehorn has a Ph.D and did graduate work in behavior psychology. Vehorn wrote “Dynamic Dating” and “Boomer Girls, a Woman’s Guide to Men & Dating.”
Filmmaker: Christopher Rokosz

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Are there any divorce support groups for parents and grandparents in or near Fairfield, CA?

Monday, October 26th, 2009


try this…

http://divorcesupport.meetup.com/

divorce support groups,savannah,ga. area?

Monday, October 26th, 2009

newly divorced, or pending divorce groups meet, usually in church’s

Here ya’ go:

http://divorcesupport.meetup.com/190/

Hope this helps and good luck.

Surviving infidelity (without going crazy)?

Monday, October 26th, 2009

Does anyone have any practical advice about how to go about forgiving and forgetting an affair?

Even though it happened almost a year and a half ago and he’s been amazing ever since, I just can’t get the thought out of my head of him being with her. How do I stop comparing myself to the "other woman"? She’s quite a bit older than me and notorious for sleeping around with anyone and everyone but it’s still knocked my self-esteem a lot. Especially as she has so many sites with attention-seeking slutty photos of herself on view. I know I shouldn’t but I can’t help reading her stupid big-headed blog, even though it hurts me to do so.

I feel like I’m going out of my mind. I can’t go on like this. Please help!

she has no self respect and is a desperate s l a g. you are so much better than her, it isn’t doing you any good reading her sites. your man is with you not her so its you he likes!

Would it be possible to heal a depression with the techniques of meditation?

Monday, October 26th, 2009

For those who read the book:

"Destructive Emotions.How can we overcome them? A scientific dialogue with the Dalai Lama."

Narrated by David Goleman

According to the tests they did with Lama Oesal:
WOULD IT BE POSSIBLE TO HEAL A DEPRESSION WITH THE TECHNIQUES OF MEDITATION?
Please, I’m looking for answers from people who have read the book.
The idea is not in the mainstream of it, but a conclusion like this could be formulated considering the experiments done with Lama Oesal.

Even so, thanks for your ideas so far.

I have read the book. As a practioner of meditation, a person who has overcome my depression and as one who is a psychologist/therapist, I feel I can answer this question. Meditation helps but does not cure it.

There are several things that one can do to overcome depression other than meds. What type of depression/anxiety do you have? What stage are you in?

I became a better therapist when I learned first hand how to deal with my depression/anxiety and overcame it.

There is a better way!

Anyone survived infidelity and became stronger?

Monday, October 26th, 2009

Husband cheated almost a year ago and I don’t see things getting better between us. Looking for encouragement from those who have gone thru it and are still together. I want to know what helped you to keep going.

I found out my husband cheated on 12/21/2008. We had a good marriage or so I thought he was always traveling to visit his parents, I trusted him on one of these trips he met a girl 3/2007 for two he lied. I remember when he came back from that trip I knew something was up I would ask question and he would get defensive…I felt like i was going crazy, in Dec of 2008 he took his last trip without me, I was cleaning out his car and found cell phones and cards, pictures sent to him by "his girlfriend" I was literally devistated. He lied, he cheated how cruel he was….Thank God he was out of town…this gave me time to call her and asked all kinds of questions, she did not know he was married, it was his fault. Anyways, it was hard the first days, weeks and months….How could I ever trust him again, right?

I lost all kinds of weight, could not sleep I was falling apart. Then all of a sudden I was thinking waht could of cause this? I was a good wife and good mom, a great housewife….what happened?
I realized I was not being a good freind and partner…we sort of overlook this small details, we get lost in the every day routine we get lost in the other titles in our life that we forget out our husband…when I realized this, I began to change I woudl set up little dates for him and I minus the kids, I became his friend we would take walks together and jsut talk about anything, I needed to get to know him all over again and accept what he had done, this was not a personal attack towards me, or anything like that, it does not mean he loved me any less….I was just not giving him the campanionship he needed. You know?
so anyways, dont be afraid to ask question the more you know the better, I realized now I was not at fault for him cheating, this was his decision and as a wife I can either move on and work at my marriege or end it. I adore my husband and cant imagine a day with out him, so I chose to change, now like I said we have our special days that is all about us, we talk so much…we listen to each others needs…it’s weird I dont think we have faught in months…we base our marriage on respect, love and understanding. I can honestly say I trust him…
I am happier than I have ever been, because I am not in the dark anymore…May everything work out for you.

Looking for meditation/focus and breathing techniques to reduce heart rate and nervousness from stage fright?

Monday, October 26th, 2009

I often get terrible physical stagefright when doing assignments infront of class in college. I realized that always right before I present I can tell my heartrate is going through the roof to where I can barely talk and my hands shake violently. I think most of my problem with this is physical so if I did a meditation technique before class or something just before my presentation it would help. Any ideas?

PANIC ATTACKS: View the techniques for control of panic attacks, in section 8, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris ~~~ http://www.ezy-build.net. (.net.nz/~shaneris) [Type, and enter the following URL, in the usual manner: h t t p : / / w w w . e z y - b u i l d . n e t . n z / ~ s h a n e r i s ] Begin by holding your breath for 5, or 10 seconds: this will give you the confidence to realise that YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR BREATHING, but not pass out, or die (your autonomic nervous system resumes breathing, if unconscious). Understand panic attacks, and what triggers them, in your life (if it is unresolved anxiety, see section 6). The paper bag method works for most people: try it. If you are fairly suggestible, the following are reliable: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/
Your last alternative is psychotherapy, to address its fundamental cause: read section 1, and examine the http://www.1-800-therapist.org/ website, and use the locators, and phone book. I used to suffer from panic attacks, until I questioned what had changed recently in my life, to trigger them? I suggest that you learn, then practise the controlled breathing technique, until competent, then employ it, at the very first sign of a panic attack. SOCIAL ANXIETY: One solution is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I’m queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you’re probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don’t go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It will endear others to you, if you don’t do it too often. See shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris ~~~ Practice one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris

What is the best relationship advice you’ve ever gotten?

Monday, October 26th, 2009

im just a little curious to see what kind of things people have to say because everyone has their own views about relationships. if you see someone’s answer that is a good piece of advice, give them an ‘ol thumbs up! if you like my question star it:)

Dump her and go out with me was the best advice I ever got. I did dump her and went out with the other woman and guess what happened? I married her 45 years ago and we are still going strong.