I have some questions that I need help with. I was just wondering if this is a good place to turn for advice.

once you sift through the joke answers and the little kids commenting, you can get some decent advice.

most people give advice based on their personal experience. Some will tell you things you don’t want to hear but keep in mind, just because you don’t like what they tell you doesn’t necessarily make it any less true. Some are more gentle than others in telling you a hard truth.

keep your question focused on what it is you want to know. don’t put up a lot of unnecessary details but do remember to put in the important details.

depending on the day of the week and the time of the day, you’ll run into more immature answers on singles and dating than you will in marriage and divorce. This is why a lot of older singles or more serious minded younger singles will ask their questions there instead of here.

on Y!A, you will encounter many different people w/ different experiences who don’t know you and are more likely to be honest w/ you in what they tell you. your friends meanwhile may not have the experience you need to have your answers or they may be trying to soothe your ego and not tell you something that they think might hurt your feelings. Sometimes you need tough love instead of a lot of a back patting or blunt honesty instead of white lies. You’ll get that here.

but as w/ any advice: you have the final say in what you do and how you handle things in your life.

I have a question about my personal life, that is honestly one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever had to make in my life.

I recently posted the question on Y!A and only got one smart ass remark. I really need someones advice, all of my friends are bias about this so I need an outside opinion.

Is there a website I can go to and get an answer for sure, or does anyone out there want to help me leave your email! PLEASE.

Feel free to email me. I’ll read it carefully and do my best to help.

In a relationship with someone I care about very much. At times it seems I care more about the relationship and where it is going than he is. He has had previous relationship problems, been cheated on, taken advantage of and feels that all women are the same and they will all do this to him. When we go out I pay for almost everything all the time. I do this to assure him that I want more out of the relationship than just his money and am very capable of taking care of my share of the expenses. Seems like the more I do for him, the less he thinks of me. Puts me down and refers to me as being just like every other woman in the world, worthless. What to I do? Is there anything I can do to make him see that not all woman are the same? That are woman out there that are not this way? Really need advice on this one. I want this relationship to work, but can it ever really with it being so one sided?

He is not worth it. look for another partener.
I am sorry to say that. but you wouldn’t like what will happen in the future. This kind of men will hold grudes forever. You will be stressed after a while..you might even forget yourself.
Start a relatioship with a man who says" is there any thing you want to keep from the past before i delete it"
i know how you feel..and it is really good…but it will bring you misery in the long run.
Think deep and hard about it.
Best of luck.

I’m looking for books because im kind of jealous or untrusting and i dont try to be but i end up turning out to be really bad.

This isn’t who i am. I’m not jealous. I’m usually trusting and calm and more rational. Im desperate for some advice or books on relationship or articles.

Thank you

Avoid the "PUA" community at all costs, unless you want to end up most likely a robot.

Everytime i look at yahoo or any other site for relationship advice all i see is what wrong with the man, or how to change the man, How you can tell he’s cheating.
I think this is why most guys are how they are, I will keep quiet most of the time about my feelings because in almost all the cases in the advise section we are always to blame and are what it wrong with the world. your comment?

Yup, agreed.

Unfortunately, one of the first relationship lessons a guy learns is that the woman is always right/hard done by/deserves more or better…