Marriage Advice – Scheduling of Intimacy

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When a man suspects his wife of cheating, the first thing that he should look for is changes in her behavior, such as staying at the office later than usual. Find out why a cheating wife may take a new interest in her appearance with help from a life and relationship coach in this free video on cheating and infidelity.

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THE 1ST YEAR OF MARRIAGE SETS THE TONE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE TOGETHER! Do these and most of the great advice in other answers and you’ll be fine:
**Notice the small stuff- pay attention to the little things in each other
**Take off your mask– be honest, real, sincere and open
**Make "we" or "us" the priority– diminish the "I" part
**Make your partner feel liked and loved– show and speak affectionately, have a sense of humor, wrestle and play in the mud, eat Oreo cookies and ice cream together
**Create safe spaces- make it safe for your partner to be open and honest, don’t judge or be critical unnecessarily
**Support each other- be aware of each others sensitive spots and pains, have his/her back
**Tend to the fire– need I say more
**Allow for separateness also- give each other space and time alone, especially when requested
**Always fight fair– screaming/yelling, repeated arguments that go nowhere, picking fights, throwing up old issues, etc., damage goodwill
**never go to sleep angry
**Learn to compromise, forgive and reach out when necessary…. and always, always give 100%, not 50/50
** And remember, "it ain’t always about you!" There will be times when your partner is agitated, it may have nothing to do with you, so don’t personalize all issues as being your cause or related to you

And finally, the key to a good marriage is much, much more than good communication, this is only the beginning and does not solve all issues. Much of what is listed above is beyond communication.

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My husband and I would like to go to marriage counseling to get some advice on how to improve our marriage and fix some of the problems that we are having. Does marriage counseling just involve talking about your issues with a non-partial third party or do they auctually help by giving advice on how to fix things?

They should be able to help with ideas and plans depending on the topic.

Counseling that focuses on communication has dismal failure rates.
You just learn to articulate what you hate more clearly.

Sh Feiz Muhammad.

Marriage in Islam is a way to reach tranquility and peace of mind.

Allah states in the Qur’an Surrah Al-Room (30:21):

“And among His Signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts]: verily in that are Signs for those who reflect”

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I’ve pretty much figured out that my marriage is over after 8 years of trying and getting no where. But, I have a unique situation which I don’t know how to resolve and I could use some advice.
I moved overseas to be with my husband and I now live in a foreign country. I have only ONE family member back home who offers me support and would be willing to help me if I needed it.
The problem is my children. They are VERY close to my husband’s family and of course my husband. They are young (6 and 7) but, old enough to know what is going on. They spend time with their grandparents every week and they absolutely love them.
If I divorced my husband, there would be no way that I could stay here. I’d have to go back home. I wouldn’t be able to support myself financially here. And I feel like my children are not getting the best quality of life here anyways.
There is no way that I would leave my children behind. Continued…
I know my husband would grant me custody of the children. Because that is the one of the few redeeming qualities about him, that he is a wonderful father. He would never try to tear his children away from their mother.
But, that is where the rock and hard place comes in. I, as a mother, can NOT tear my children away from their grandparents and the only family that they have ever known.
If I moved back home (which I would HAVE to do if I were to divorce), then it would mean a 12 hour long plane ride to see their father and grandparents. It would have to be a rare occasion, maybe once a year, as I wouldn’t be able to afford much else.
I have thought about sharing the children by letting my husband have them for 3 months during the summer vacation. But, somehow this still doesn’t seem fair to my children. They would be devestated not to have their father or grandparents around every day. And it wouldn’t be like a stone’s throw down the road…it is across a huge ocean!
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In this case, do you think it is wiser to stay in the marriage and stick it out until the children are older? I am afraid of the traumatic effects it would have on my children otherwise.
Do you have any advice or ideas? Thanks!

If you are sure that the marriage is over, get the divorce. If you have to move, move. The cardinal rule in keeping children happy is keeping the mom happy.

Your children are young enough so that they will, relatively quickly, get over not seeing their father and grandparents often. It will be painful at first, but that’s just the nature of divorce.

If your husband is really a great father, he will soon, if not immediately, think of moving close to wherever you and the kids go. If not, he should fork over the cash to make trips to see the kids or for the kids to come to him. The grandparents should also.

My husband and I are 23 and I have a 4 year old son. We are newbies only been married 7 months. This is our first marriage and we don’t believe in divorce. We also attend church every week. We are very happy and we want it to stay that way.

So what is your best secret to making your marriage happy; or what was the best advice someone else gave you?

Please answer seriously and no divorce jokes on this one guys.

I agree with all the other answers… communication, honesty, and all that jive, but there is one thing that never seems to be listed that is as important as anything else… LAUGH, LAUGH, LAUGH. I don’t care how you do it. If you have to pick on each other, by all means, do it (in a respectful way, of course). but laugh. Laughter will go a long ways towards getting you though the hard times.

Former WCW, WWF and WWE wrestler Goldberg gives me advice on marriage. A valuable life lesson for all grooms.

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I don’t necessarily mean a joke or a malicious comment (although you can include those if you wish).

I’m looking for well-meaning advice given by someone who sincerely wanted to help that just turned out to be flat-out wrong.

What made the advice so terrible?
I should have added this, but did you KNOW that it was terrible advice at the time, or did you try it out first?
Curious at the responses here.

Some of the advice seems to contradict others, albeit likely in different circumstances.

And some of the advice, I would give occasionally.

From my best friend on my ex boyfriend.
"If I were you I would bail him out of jail and fight the drug charges, maybe he will change"
WORST advice ever.