Though infidelity in marriage is viewed by many as intolerable act of betrayal, it’s still so prevalent in our society today. By far, sex outside marriage by both men and women has gone up in the last decade, and the trend will probably continue for years to come.

Surveys and infidelity statistics gathered over the years has constantly shown that both married men and women engage in extra marital affair at an alarming rate – men more than women. Most of the surveys on this topic also suggest that younger married couples are more likely to be unfaithful to their spouse than do older and more established couples – surprisingly younger married females engage in more sex outside marriage than their male counterpart.

On average, about 22% of married men and 14% of women admitted to having had sex with someone other than their spouse. This number may not seem outrageously high, and it’s not; but you have to remember that the survey is based on people who admitted to infidelity. Conventional wisdom has it that more than 50% of married men and women will have extra marital affair at least once during their marriage. It’s hard to believe but entirely true; because some people will deny having sex outside marriage even when they are caught in the act.

Surviving infidelity in any marriage is not an easy thing do. Once infidelity is discovered, the initial shock and trauma may last for days if not weeks.

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I’m looking for information on finding local support groups (not online – but old school church basement stuff) for spouses who need to talk about surviving infidelity.

are groups like this still available?

If it is a specific type of group you are looking for, why not start your own. I am sure there are plenty of men around who need the support you are talking about. There are lots of women’s groups around, but very few men’s groups around. Why not give it a try. Put an add in your local newspaper and see what responses you get. I think it would be a great idea.

Good luck

Has anyone had a successful infidelity survival story?

Yes, It does require a bit of patience and a good understanding between partners. Some relationships are based on open ended situations where the partners are not mutually exclusinve. This has tobe worked out well ahead of any living together or affermation of the relationship.

If one partner is unfaithful BUT both want it to remain intact, there has to be a lost of very honest and sincere discussion about what and how the transgression came to pass.

If jealousy exists in the relationship two things are sure to happen – There will be transgressions and eventually the relationship wll break up. Jealousy in a clear basis for lack of trust. That leads to interrogations, arguements and other impositions of one person on the other. That will not work.

Basically, the unfaithful person has to acknowledge that they made a mistake – assumning the wish to continue the realtionship and will maintain a commitment not to do it again.

If it does happen a second – or more – time, than you have to decide whether to keepp the relationship together knowing that you partner is weak and liable to be unfaithful. Remember something else. Even if a person is unfaithful to the realtionship, the nig questions is – do they came "Home". If the do, without being chased, then there is definite desire to maintain the relationship. Build on that and don’t worry about anything else.

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Well, basically I’m just wondering if a couple can ever REALLY get over the fact that their partner cheated on them. Have you ever known a couple who was able to get through it and be happy?

yes, it is possible. me and my husband dated for 5 yrs and been married for 9 yrs. I cheated on him during our marriage. it took some time for us to resolve our problems but we stuck through it and are renewing our vows in October. Although there will be a trust issue for a little while, if you decide to forgive that person and continue to be with them you cannot throw it in their face every time you get mad. when you are willing to accept their faults and forgive you must let it go . if you you are christian, asked God for the strength to see you through. i hope everything turn out for the best and God bless

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Do you get all the dirty details of affair to help move on? Do you ignore and move forward as if it didn’t happen? Do you share all pain you are feeling with spouse or partner or keep it inside in order to not relive it over and over again?
Any suggestions or good advice to help others survive the pain?

when you figure it out, let me know. It will never be the same, that I can guarantee to you. Whatever once was pure, is jaded… I hate him for what he did to us. And cannot spend one day without remembering it.

Just a general question and would like to see what some people think. Obviously every situation is different, but this is just a general question.

Can a marriage survive infidelity, if the offending spouse is remorseful and the affair is over?

If yes, why and how?

If no, why?

Personal experiences are always welcomed

Yes….if the cheater realizes what he has done and how much hurt he has caused. The cheater has to take total responsibility for the choice that was made and set up preventative measures that will keep it from ever happening again. Also, the cheater needs to know that if there would be another betrayal in this marriage that there will never ever be a second chance again. The marriage will need counseling to understand why it happened and direction in the marriage to help deal with the pain, loss of trust issues and how to rebuild the relationship.
NO…. the relationship will not survive if the cheater feels no remorse for his actions and continues to give the spouse any indication that he is out cheating again. No trust can rebuild itself on someone that continues to do what they want and when they want and does not include the spouse.As long as the cheater believes that they should have all the freedom as before the betrayal the relationship is doomed. If they do not understand that everything is different now and that it will take a long time before trust can be earned the marriage will not survive. Also, if the couple in the marriage try to work all these problems and issues out on their own they will not make it because you can only learn how to live with what has happened but the hurt and pain will always be there and never forgotten. This is where you have to both learn how to support one another through the down times and lift one another up and stay focused on the here and now. If a couple thinks that they can heal themselves without total commitment to fixing what is wrong in the first place marriage will never survive infidelity.